Have you ever said a word when you were angry that you regretted later?
I’m sure that’s the case with most of us. The problem we all face; how to control our anger, how to gain emotional stability.
“Do not get angry”
Surprisingly enough, we’ll find many Hadiths of Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him mentioning that we should not be overwhelmed by anger, this is to point out the importance of the topic.
Abû Hurayrah relates that a man said to the Prophet (peace be upon him): “Counsel me.” The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Do not get angry.” The man repeated his request many times, but the Prophet (peace be upon him) kept saying: “Do not get angry.” [Sahîh al-Bukhârî]
Islam pays so much attention to the mental health of his followers.
Narrated Abu Huraira:
Allah’s Messenger said, “The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger.” [Sahih al-Bukhari 6114]
Three common types of anger:
This can be seen when someone yells at the other. Sometimes hitting the other person, harming or insulting him etc.
Holding grudges against someone or avoiding them etc.
When someone keeps his anger inside him. It’s a silent killer! It destroys someone’s health (physically & emotionally) and it turns to hate.
So, Why do we feel anger?
It’s because we feel we want to control the situation we are facing, to control the other party’s behaviour or to show disapproval. But when you put anger in control you’ll soon realise that you’re losing control over that situation.
While, actually, anger is a response of lacking control.
Tips to “How to react when you feel angry?” :
Seek refuge in Allah:
Say “A’otho billahi mn al shaytan al rajeem” meaning; I seek refuge with Allah from the evil satan. The Prophet (sas) said, “I know a word, the saying of which will cause him to relax, if he does say it. If he says: ‘I seek Refuge with Allah from Satan’ then all his anger will go away.” say & reflect upon them.
Change your posture:
The Messenger of Allah peace be upon him said to us: “When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie down.” [Sunan Abi Dawud 4782]
The Prophet (sas) said, “Anger comes from the devil, the devil was created from fire, and fire is extinguished only with water. So when one of you becomes angry, he should make wudu.”
Pause! Take a moment to think:
Why are you feeling anger? Is anger the correct response here? Are you angry for your pride or for Allah’s sake? Anger, would it help?!
Deal with the situation with which pleases Allah:
Allah does not ask Allah to do anger instead he asks us to do Ihsan. What is Ihsan? So think of what pleases Allah in that situation instead of seeking how to control the other party.
Let your anger pass.
Don’t act while you are angry nor make decisions.
Dear brothers & sisters, Try to challenge yourself during the month of Ramadan. This will be a good chance. Remember prophet Muhammad said: “When any one of you gets up in the morning in the state of fasting, he should neither use obscene language nor do any act of ignorance. And if anyone slanders him or quarrels with him, he should say:” I am fasting, I am fasting.”
See you next article insha’Allah. Have a blessed Ramadan.