There is a story that is mentioned in the Quran about Prophet Soliman, Allah say: “Until, when they came upon the valley of the ants, an ant said, “O ants, enter your dwellings that you not be crushed by Soliman and his soldiers while they perceive not.” [An Naml 18]
Allah gave Prophet Soliman the ability to understand the language of animals and the Jinn and to speak to them. “And Soliman inherited David. He said, “O people, we have been taught the language of birds, and we have been given from all things. Indeed, this is evident bounty.” [An Naml 16].
One day, Prophet Soliman was marching with his soldiers of men, Jinn and birds, until they reached the valley of the ants, so an ant said “O ants, enter your dwellings that you not be crushed by Soliman and his soldiers while they perceive not.” Prophet Soliman understood what the ant had aid and he smile and thanked Allah for that blessing “So [Soliman] smiled, amused at her speech, and said, “My Lord, enable me to be grateful for Your favor which You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents and to do righteousness of which You approve. And admit me by Your mercy into [the ranks of] Your righteous servants.” [An Naml 19]
The point from this story is that, although the ant is an insect and it is a very tiny insect, it excused prophet Soliman. The ant said enter your dwelling so that you are not crushed by soliman while he is not noticing you, he doesn’t know that you are there.
A Muslim, from his first priorities, should have this manner (excusing others like the ant). Allah say:”O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin.”[Al Hujurat 12]. Ja’far ibn Muhammad said: “if something that you don’t like reached you about someone, find from one to seventy excuses for him, if you didn’t find any, say “maybe he has an excuse that I don’t know”
If you saw a young man sitting in a bus and there is an old man standing, don’t rush and judge that the young man is rude, maybe this young man has surgery in his legs and he can’t stand. If one of your family said a rude word to you, excuse him and say maybe he doesn’t mean it, or maybe he doesn’t know that it would hurt you.
Avoiding negative assumptions and excusing others will make you live a peaceful life, spread love between people, remove hatred. Most of the wrong impressions or misunderstanding come from negative assumptions. Just ask this person about what he means or why he did that or excuse him without reasons, you will find that all your relationships with others are healthy ones.